I feel bad but feel worse leading him on now. It wasn't my intention but he has told his friends and family about me (he got them all to yell hi to me in the bar on snapchat then said love you babe) so for him it's more serious than for me. I told two friends about him but honestly never thought anything would ever come of the situation like meeting in person which he now wants. He wants to buy me a ticket to fly to his city and stay for two weeks. We've been dating online for 8 months. Some would say just block and delete him but I don't have the heart to do that I feel I owe him an explanation and would like to stay friends. Advice on how to end this please?
Most Helpful Guy
Be honest tell him you do like him but didn't think the relationship would manifest into a meet in real life situation. He'll be mad and heartbroken and he may say some things, let him and dont take him seriously. Also don't do online dating if you aren't going to make it serious.2
- Show AllShow Less
Most Helpful Girl
Just tell him that you think he's moving a bit too fast in the relationship and that you're not comfortable going to visit him yet, regardless of whether he buys the ticket or not.
If you go, you're not only going to be leading him on, but you'll also be reinforcing the idea that if he pays, you'll do as he pleases. Essentially making yourself an escort. So... yeah. Just telling him that you're not ready to meet in person yet is the lesser of the two (or three) evils.1