Asking permission to call an escort. Should I be ok with this?

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 months. We live an hour away from each other. Because of his job, he can only come up to my place on the weekends. He just asked me today if I would be ok with him calling an escort to get serviced. I feel extremely hurt that he is even thinking of screwing anyone but me. I never knew he was capable of this or had even used escorts in the past. I feel like I'm not satisfying him enough, if he wants to get serviced by some other girl. Now I don't trust him. I feel like he is going to do it behind my back because he knows that I'm not ok with it. Should I break up with this guy?


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  • After 4 months? Yeesh. The upside is he's willing to pay an escort rather than go pick up some random woman at a bar, but he should really put time and effort into seeing you more if he's that needy. That's a red flag if I've ever seen one, and a big one at that.

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  • No you shouldn't be okay with it. I've heard of guys asking for to use an escort service because they were in a long distance relationship, but he lives an hour away from you and you see each other every weekend, this really doesn't seem like a reasonable ask from him. Also, if he truly liked you, he wouldn't want to have sex with someone else, he'd live with just masturbating during the week. If you don't trust him, you should break up with him, a relationship can't survive without trust.

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  • This is one of a billion reasons why LDRs don't work.

    The escort issue is just a symptom - the problem is that relationships are about SPENDING TIME TOGETHER - and if you can't do that, then your emotional and physical needs aren't being met, yet you're having to do even more work and making more of an effort than you would in a normal relationship. That imbalance causes people to either let loneliness overcome them, or causes them to lose interest and lose their emotional connection.

    LDRs simply aren't realistic. ALWAYS DATE LOCALLY, because virtually all LDRs fail due to reasons directly related to the distance/time apart.

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  • You see each other every weekend and I assume you always make love then, probably more than once?

    And he can't masturbate the other days of the week?

    I'm sorry but he sounds like an extremely selfish guy who is only interested in his own pleasure..
    and no matter that he "asked your permission" it is still CHEATING.

    My strong advice (warning even) is: you need to leave him as fast as if you were Usain Bolt running a sprint final at the Olympics !

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  • I wouldn't say thats normal.

    Before breaking up with him, I'd have a conversation about how this is affecting you, put it all out there, not in a "you better do what i say" kinda way but more of a "this is how I feel, and now i'm not sure we're worth it" kinda way

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  • I can't imagine this getting resolved in any way that is satisfactory to both you and him. Why invest more time in this relationship?

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  • Run far and fast.

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  • Why don't you go to see him instead of requiring him to see you only on weekends?

    Although, it does sound like he is married.

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    • His current living situation prevents me from going to his place. He currently lives with parents because he left his wife 12 months ago. She racked up credit card debt in his name ruining his credit. He has not been able to get a place of his own

    • You are 47 years old and your boyfriend lives with his parents?

      You are a lost cause. You can't be helped.

  • Dump him immediately.. If I had a girl staying the type of things to me no matter what I will immediately dump her...

    If you have high self-esteem you will dump him...

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  • Yeah this doesn't sound like this will workout.

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  • LDR's never work. And this is a disaster.
    Consider dating someone you can actually SEE.

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  • If he can't be happy with his hand until the weekend, maybe you need to reconsider.

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  • Wow lol
    --> And then girls complain about shitty relationships when they. The irony here is unreal

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  • What a fuckin idiot.
    You shouldn't be ok with that in the slightest.

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  • Dump him , he sounds like a selfish dickhead.

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  • in a heart beat

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  • Post an ad as an escort, show, YOU get serviced, then break up with him.

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  • Yeah since that's a lousy thing to do, tell him to just jerk off and wait for you if you even still want to see him after he said that

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  • I think you should at least appreciate his honesty, he could easily just be hiring a whore and you would never know.
    Can't you guys just jerk off together over Skype or something?

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  • An hour drive and you guys can't make that work a couple of nights a week?

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    • He gets off work late at night so it's not really feasible during the week

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    • Yes I get up early in the morning. I didn't realize the situation for so dire for him. So much so that he wants to call an escort. For christ sake, he just had sex with me the day before yesterday.

    • Well then obviously he doesn't need to be dating someone that lives an hour away

  • I would, yeah.

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  • do you trust him enough? maybe he's just an adventurous guy, likes to explore more about sex. but if he really loves you, even he's making it out of someone which I not you, he loves you still. it's just a matter of trust girl. but if you feel something fishy happening don't doubt but to end it with him. you know how it feels if he still loves you, just open your mind also not just the heart. ;)

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  • tell him how u feel talk about it with him he might just c how much of an ejet his been

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  • He ever heard of jerking off? He doesn't need an escort. He's a shitty boyfriend.

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  • It's a good sign to break up

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  • never would allow that

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  • omg honey I know it's your life and you do you.. but this shit is unbelievable.. I would spit in his face and walk away lol.. I mean how? what justifies he being in another women's body because of superficial things.. I wouldn't say sex is a huge part of any good relationship.. it's an accessory it makes it pretty and complete it but not be the reason why you should go out and screw another guys? it's considered cheating.. please value yourself and rise your standards.. and don't be okay with any of this.. who doesn't truly love you and appreciate every second with you.. don't deserve you sweetie..
    if he loves you he wouldn't even get it up without thinking about you

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  • Break Up rn.

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