So my current partner of 2 years gave me herpes. I got it about a year into the relationship. He was my first, but I was not his first. He is a lot older than me and had slept with a lot of chicks before we got together. My best friend tells me he cheated otherwise I would've got it straight away. I believe he didn't cheat on me as I asked him and he said no (or am I just being naive)
He had a few coldsores on his lips throughout the first year of our relationship and I wouldn't kiss him during those times. He would say he didn't know why he was getting them.
- Stay, he didn't cheat. You still have each other7%(1)12%(3)Vote22%(2)
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Most Helpful Guy
I'm pretty sure he cheated. No way that you cjould have sex for 2 years and not catch it even if he took all the precautions (which I doubt).
While most people would rather have someone who doesn't have herpes I wouldn't want to stick with someone who cheated on me, didn't get himself checked and then knowingly or unknowingly giving it to me.0
Most Helpful Girl
Well, no offense, but people who cheat are more than likely to lie about cheating when asked directly. So, I definitely wouldn't just believe him on spot. Your friend is right- you would have gotten herpes immediately if he had it when you first started dating. The fact that you got it a year later is more than odd. Talk with your doctor if you want to make sure. Ask them if it's normal to get herpes a year later from when you first got together with your boyfriend. If she says it's mainly unlikely, then he most definitely cheated on you. However, I would break up with the guy on spot if I found out I got herpes from him because he should have warned me and gotten daily check-ups since he was sexually active with me just as I would with him - especially if we didn't use protection.0