What about a 17 year old girl and a 30 year old man?
What Girls Said 14
12 years older... disgusting, illegal (depending where you live) morally wrong.. well plain out wrong.
she doesn't have the maturity level to be with a 30 year old guy (it would be different if she was in her 20's and was darinf5 someone 12 years older because she would have a better understanding and maturity level emotionally and mentally
I say wait until she's legal or/and out of high school. And watch for red flags in older guys, and all guys in general really, so you know who to avoid, listen to the parents rules if you live under their house, follow all those guidelines and that's how you avoid A LOT of trouble, I speak from experience.
Other than that, I believe as long as both parties are of legal age and consenting, and voided all the red flags, then it's okay, not a huge deal. At that point their success depends on them as an individual couple. Not all older guys who may date younger women are creeps, but they are A LOT out there, so she needs to be aware that fact.
I'm only 3 years older than her and I am dating a 30 year old. One thing i've learned so far, because I was cautious about the age things too at first, is that once a person has the qualities of a great character, then their age becomes just as shallow as their race. You are more open minded and date the person for the character that you appreciate and you "forget" their age.0
there's such a difference in mentality and maturity that it's near destined to lead to abuse. I don't see why any 30 year old man would want to date a teenager anyways. I'm 21 and I wouldn't even date a 19 year old.0
no. Really... she's underage0
Not even legal0
Noting wrong if 17 year is legal
It's a good match for an experienced person it will be safe then a 20 year guy.0
no. just no0
Ehh, very sketchy. When I was 15-17, a lot of men 26-34 were interested in me, asked me on dates, (even after I told them my age) but when I turned 18, suddenly these same men were no longer interested in me, and literally I've had maybe 4 guys be interested in me since I turned 18. 3 of 4 were really no good guys, and the 4th is my boyfriend.
In general I don't believe a 17 year old has the maturity to be with a 30 year old, and the only real thing he could get from her is sex. As they are on a whole different level mentally, she likely hasn't graduated high school, and therefore most likely hasn't even started her career path, or decent money making. I am a firm believer that those under 25 who don't have a steady or decent career, pay their own rent and bills, and have had a chance to live in the world themselves, and pay for life themselves, really shouldn't date people more than 4-5 years older than them.
I think age difference relationships work out better and are more balanced when both people have their own money, career, goals, dreams, and have experienced life as an adult on their own for a bit.
I can't see a 17 year old and a 30 year old really connecting on any true level, and I feel the 30 year old would end up paying for everything, and the 17 year old would really not learn much until it was too late, and she is 20 and he leaves, and she has to support herself all the sudden.0
What Guys Said 6
Depends in what state they are in. The age of consent is 16 in some states. But if they really love and care for each other then wait til she is 18 and legal adult.0
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