We broke up just over 2 months ago, and he's recently got into a new relationship, but i still think about him.. how do i stop? its really irritating! And when we were friends and still talking why did he tell me every time he had a date? i just find it weird. I wanna stop over thinking our whole relationship, i just wanna get over it!😔 How did you do it, if you have any advice?
Most Helpful Guy
I completely understand what you're going through, I still thought about my ex girlfriend after we broke up for a couple of months. I asked myself the same exact questions your asking yourself now. It's not wrong to think of your ex, because you created memories together. Whether they're happy or sad memories, they're still memories that made an input on you. Instead of thinking like it's a bad thing, I think that you should learn from it. Use though memories to help you grow as a person and become stronger as person as well. Like when you're trying to find someone else, you could have better judgment on who to look out for and who to avoid. Thinking about your ex could reveal that maybe what you thought you liked in a guy isn't what you like at all. However, if you're like me and thinking about your ex and still have feelings for that person, I can tell you that it'll go away, but it'll take time. I recommend that you do whatever it takes to get your mind off of it, like hanging out with friends or going on adventures, trying new things, etc. It's completely normal that you still think of your ex, many people still do and some never stop. the first thing I do recommend that you do is to stop getting irritated over it, because it just means your acknowledging it. I hope this was helpful, and of course this is just my opinion, so you don't have to listen to me.1
Most Helpful Girl
You say occasionally in the subject of your question but in the more details you provided it sounds like you think about him and/or your relationship a lot.
It is normal either way if right after a break up. The occasional thought will never go away but the obsessing over it will only hurt your more so I suggest you do something to occupy your time. Work longer hours, get back into a hobby or find a new one, reconnect with friends - do something else so for a little while, you are not thinking about your ex and your past relationship.
I have been there and I am sure many others have too. It hurts and it sucks and reliving or rethinking about it only makes it suck more and hurt more. :(
But eventually, it will pass. In the meantime, find something that puts some joy back into your life - go hiking, go visit a friend, do that thing that you keep putting off, etc
Sending good thoughts your way. :)0