I've been trying and trying to make amends, I took responsibility for my own actions and acknowledged those, and didn't make them again. He has been very bitter and mean, when he is equal responsible for the downfall of our relationship. After he broke up with me, I focused on myself and changed as I realised that I was wrong and was immature back then, I didn't change for him or with intention of getting him back, I changed for myself and my future. However I decided to reconnect with him and sincerly apologise and since then he's gave me a hard time and won't let go of the past and resents me. He just sent me this text- I can't flip a switch like a light and be like hey! Let's just totally forget about everything and put everything under the rug like it never happened. It's really silly that you would propose such an idea. That we haven't talked in months and you think you can waltz in here just bc you look different and think you think differently that I'm just gonna welcome you with open arms. I've heard this im different so many times I've heard it more than when I say I'm gonna quit smoking so like godammit you make me so mad
Please help my ex sent me this text and I don't know what to say?
What Guys Said 12
He could have put it in nicer words but he IS right. You can't just expect him to. forget everything that happened just because you changed. Once you hurt a guy, he MIGHT forgive you but he will never forget. and he will not the mistake of allowing you to hurt him ever again. at least thats how grown men think1
Why are you communicating with an ex? Do you really think you can reconcile and ride off into the sunset together and live happily ever after? Lmao. Do you think you can be friends with an ex? Roflmfao1
He's not the one.. Am happy you changed for you, so also change your view on relationships and move forward.. He's in the past and let him remain there, you don't need anything or anyone reminding you of what you left behind. The only way is forward.0
Just let him be? There are some things he has a harder time to overcome but that's nothing of your concern now. U apologized so your job is done. He doesn't want to be friends or anything1
"What to say" you ask? "FUCK YOU" comes to mind. You apologized and the letter speaks for itself. Just move forward.0
It's so hard to say if a relationship can be resurrected. I separated from my wife a year and a half ago and while I still love her I know that we can never be together again. The bitterness is real. We both made mistakes and resent the unhappiness we caused one another. I wish I could tell you to go ahead and try to work it out but my instincts say otherwise. Statistically "second tries"don't go well and that can lead to even more unhappiness. Please think hard before you act and let us all know how it goes. Good luck.0
Naw, it never works with an ex. You can't get that magic back. NEXT!1
Dont reply to him anything. Let him think why you are not replying at all. You apologized, you did your part. Wait until he message you again to apologize what he said. You do not make any move or text a single word until he message again. Consider its done and meanwhile you move on with your life.0
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What did you do that was so wrong?0
change your number move away0
What Girls Said 2
Your ex is under no obligation to forgive and forget. It is time to learn how to respect his decision and move on.1
You did your part if he doesn't except it that's on him , remember they are not called exes for no reason and by his response you have your answer0
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