need ideas to get over initial pain. usually , i know how to deal with anything but for some reason I forgot how. what do you do to deal with the pain?
I'm broken hearted right now. help me through?
What Guys Said 24
I think first of all hide all their stuff on social media (dont block them thats just stupid and childish), chuck out any pics/items that you have strong memories/remind you of the person, if they gave you something valuable sell. Delete all the tracks that you used to listen to together and dont go to the places that you used to visit with the person.
Now you have gotten rid of the triggers its time to get rid of the feeling inside you:
dont just sit on the sofa feeling sorry for yourself and eating ice cream like they do in shitty teen movies, push yourself to the very edge doing sport/workouts to distract yourself when its hurting the most and it will tire you out so you can sleep better, when you put your body under extreme pressure it just kicks into survival mode and pushes away all the irrelevant stuff, also it releases endorphins which should make you feel better and relax.
Go meet up with mates and maybe even go out and get with new people, the best way to get over someone is to get with new people, show yourself you can do better and that "THAT AMAZING PERSON" was not the only person you can fall in love with on the planet, yea it might seem stupid to try and replace them and yea the first few weeks you are probably gonna think yea but they aren't as good as the person I was with, but at least it will show you that you can get with other people and take your mind off your ex also it should make it less likely that you start texting them.1
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Do things that give you pleasure... take a trip to a favourite getaway, or throw yourself into a project that you enjoy devoting yourself to.
And there's always GaG as a distraction!2
You are safe , your life is safe , that is a great blessing. Take time and breathe. Eat well , sleep well and just stay relaxed. Love failure does not defeat you or your dreams. It's time to take a U turn and start rebuilding your life with a new partner. But you don't have to start planning things immediately. So just take your time and just stay healthy. Health is wealth. And that includes mental health too.1
Step 1-Stop blaming yourself
Step 2- See the bullet you dodged. If this was one of those forever things that's a lot of pain for a longer time
Step 3- Even if this was your fault one should be willing to make adjustments in a relationship. If it wasn't meant to be then it wasn't.
Step 4- Think of all the good times as just good times. they are good memories.
Step 5- See how much you can accomplish solo. That way you can evaluate why you want a partner in the first place. Setting expectations is important.1
Two ways. Either embrace it (crying, depression, etc. - quick and painful) or you suppress it (distractions, hobbies, work) and work through it for a much longer period. I personally prefer the second type, but everyone finds their own way.1
Avoid anything that reminds you of him. Even if it takes a trip abroad. Meet a new guy/friend to keep your emotions busy. don't stay alone 😊1
Time is the only healer during recovery from heartbreak. All you can do is think strong, try your best not to shut people out and focus on what is currently important. But honestly, time is the only healer with heartbreak. You will get through this. Be patient. I know how much it hurts..1
Think of all that's going good in your life right now. Be grateful for the small things of life. Listening to fun music also helps.1
Get outside and enjoy nature.1
1) Find a Hobby to take you mind off of things.
2) Go for a daily walk and enjoy your surroundings and realize the amazing things around you.1
I stop listening to the playlists, stopped looking at their posts, never contacted them, changed my routine to avoid reminders - stopped everything. And it was still horrible. But over time that became a habit.
BUT: on the anniversary of the day we met, I park there at that spot and play "our" playlist. And cry just a bit. Then everything gets put back away. Until next year, I suppose.1
why and how1
I'm here for you girl1
im going through that right now some days are better than others but its hard try surrounding yourself with positive people1
I usually just watch videos. Good Lord though, you're buff as hell! 😱1
Im heart broken too right now. Just try not to look any of his mysories, facebook, instagram etc. and watch American pie or something funny. Whatever you do, don't send him any messages and ignore if he's trying to be your friend.1
a break up pain.. talking though it, watching happy stuff friends and time1
Go for a long drive with a close friend1
Lower you standard and give average guy a chance.
And flex your sexy muscles1
I just watch some Disney movies 😅😅😅
who the hell would break up with u? 😅🤔1
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What Girls Said 8
I know the feels. I am about 4 months post breakup. Initially I allowed myself to cry and be depressed. It is important to grieve. Keep yourself as busy as possible. This is the secret. Plan your day in advance. Force yourself to get out of the house and meet friends for dinner. Exhaust yourself so that by the time you have to sleep you are so tired. Start planning goals too. Pick short term goals to work on.1
Let it all out in the beginning, try to find something to do or hang out with friends to get distracted after that. Not the best method but at least the only one that works for me.1
First of all, I admire your fitness. You obviously know how good exercise is for moods. You might listen to music or watch a movie of the genre that you prefer.1
Go watch funny youtube videos1
sorry to hear about that.. only time will help tho1
Allow yourself time to heal. Get enough rest.1
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