Some background: I was previously married for 10 years, I have 2 girls and I'm a single mom that works two jobs, College educated, work in healthcare. He's never been married, longest relationship is 4 months, no children and works for an oilfield company. we're both the same age.. 16 Days apart. He's a big gym rat - used to weigh upwards of 450lbs and has lost almost 200lbs - he's had some self-esteem issues due to it & feels unaccomplished in life. (I'm not perfect, but pretty confident- not into the gym, but I'm doing it now & I feel very accomplished.) We didn't have a lot in common but I fell inlove with him. -- We both have trust issues - he thinks every guy wants to hit on me and I lost a couple guy friends.. I feel social media is too important to him & that he could've been talking to other girls on snapchat/insta (he likes to post his progress). I broke up with him once- I felt like he wanted different things than me ; he begged me to take him back and I did. But I broke up with him last week because I felt like he wasn't affectionate enough. He never tells me he cares/misses me, and I love showing affection (not clingy though) I regretted it immediately. I've told him I was sorry. I begged him to take me back, but he told me I broke his heart and wants nothing to do with me. He says I was just playing games, but I even took the step of bringing him around my kids and they loved him. I really can't come to terms because I know he wasn't the perfect guy but he was for me and I was looking forward to building a solid future. But he told me that once an ex, it's over. He said 2 days ago he needed time to think and stopped answering my texts (I think he put me on DND or blocked me.) I deleted my snap/insta- I don't want to see how he's doing without me and I don't want him to see how I am without him. I'm heartbroken. Should I leave him alone and let him come back or do I need to be persistent? I don't have a lot of guy friends, and I need an unbiased opinion.
(REALLY NEED HELP UNDERSTANDING GUYS!!) is it too late?
What Guys Said 5
... leave him alone... try to reconnect with your lost friends. You don't say much positive about him and the way you described falling in love, made it seem like you were surprised by it! His jealousy seems immature and, frankly, you're a single mother with her sit together. You don't have time for immature.2
it's best to move on. it sounds toxic2
Give him time, if you really love him do that, 2-4weeks. Then approach him, if he's ready to talk then, then go for it, solve it. You're in the same spot I'm now with a friend-ish on the job, She (for you, he) sees so much red, that it's boiling, just take a step back, let it cool off.0
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