My boyfriend and I are long distance and we have a big time difference (4 hours) so when he calls me "at night" he's really calling me at 8 o clock, which means he has the night free to do whatever he wants. I'm very suspicious and something happened between us in a conversation where it was clear he was lying about something, but it's not clear as to whether or not he cheated on me. I want to know if he did, but I've asked him and he says he hasn't. I figure if he wants to be with other girls, he should have just used long distance as an excuse and broke up with me. So how do I get him to confess without nagging him? Any special things I could say to make him feel really guilty? Don't tell me that I have trust issues, I know I do, and as far as I'm concerned I'm pretty sure all men cheat, especially ones who are attractive.
Also we're both 23 so we're young...young people cheat more often too right?
i am exactly f***in like you except with my girl. I'm in a long distance relationship too but anyway. I doubt you can make him guilty but you can say you know he did it and he has once chance to admit it or f*** him.that probably won't work but there's not much you can but try to get him to stumble on his words so that you know he did something. I used to cheat on my girlfriends all the time but I never cared about them. I care about my girl now and I would NEVER cheat on her. if he loves you he won't cheat on you.
You can't make anyone do anything. And it's unrealistic and unhealthy to try.
If you can't trust this guy to stay loyal, it's best to dump him and move on. That's the most mature, responsible thing you could possibly do. All your manipulations, tricks, guilt games, etc are almost as bad as cheating, because you're undermining the relationship.
Not all men cheat. Don't blame all men because you've had bad experiences.
Maybe therapy to address your trust issues? If you love someone you have to be able to trust them. Even when it's not long distance you can't be with someone all day, every day. Until you get yourself straightened out you'll never be happy with anyone. And if you keep on with this you're probably going to end up driving him away!