Had a magical relationship and then ends it without a warning and she needs space. why?
My ex and I were together for a month and for that month it was magic. We like all the same things, food, cooking for each other, four wheeling,...
Another reason why I'm not a smothering personson is becasue my ex broke it off with me becasue she always wanted to be with me and was bothering me. So we talked and went somewhere without her and she was pissed off and said that she doesn't want to be with me.
Most Helpful Girl
I think that she just freaked out because you both were moving too far too fast. Especially since she just had a divorce, I'm guessing that she panicked and wanted to reevaluate the relationship because she didn't want to rush into another marriage only for history to repeat itself. I also was afraid when my boyfriend was super serious with me; after a month or two he told me he wanted to work through a long distance relationship (for 8 months!), move to my hometown, follow me to graduate school, etc. It was a lot to deal with and I panicked too. I quickly realized, however, that I ultimately wanted a serious relationship and I had a very sweet boyfriend who was offering that to me. Hopefully sharing my own experience will help you process what your girl might be going through. I'm surprised she ended it so quickly vs. talking it through with you; it must have been a knee-jerk reaction.
I would wait a little while and then contact her, either through a phone call, email, or your best friend. Explain that while you stand by what you said during the relationship, you would take it slow if it meant you got to be with her. I would just reiterate that you're sincere and interested, and have her interests at heart. Try to think with your head instead of your heart, so you two can truly get to know each other (it was only a month after all!) In my opinion that's really all you can do at this point. I hope she'll listen to you and will give the relationship another try!
What Girls Said 7
TOO MUCH TOO SOON. It was all just too rushed best thing you can do is stop all contact with her and move on. If you really want her back make it obvious that you are moving on post pictures on a social site if you have one. People don't like to see other people are better off and completely fine without them.
You know, maybe this is all just overwhelming for her.
I will give you a personal experience. My boyfriend is clingy and possessive as he calls it, he always texts me and says nice things to show his affection. He's so sappy he talks about me getting pregnant and how happy he would be to marry me and start family, but he chose to date a female who isn't very affectionate and I've tried to break it off with him multiple times because I had never had to deal with those things. I suffer from anorexia nervosa and being told I have a beautiful body is something I don't agree with, it was all very overwhelming. Maybe since she has had nothing but stereotypically "bad" guys, she feels things are going too good to be true and has decided to put her walls up later down the road.
But I'm sure she will come to her senses.
When my boyfriend decided to give me space I practically died and I missed all the clingy mess and nice things that were being told to me that I had never been so acquainted with. I've even picked up eating, although slowly.
Well what you had was a girl who didn't understand what she had. I will tell you the same thing happened to me when I met my boyfriend. He treated me the same way you described and I wanted to run, but I said I wanted a guy who was different from the others and I am glad I stuck around. Best thing that ever happened to me. Got a guy I have always wanted. The problem is it does seem like smothering in the beginning because you are not used to it. You are used to jerks who don't call unless they want sex and call twice a week instead of everyday (which is what we women really need). The sad thing I woman doesn't understand that if she has only been with bad boy, jerky boys who think they are men. I am sorry you had to go through that but sometimes women don't realize what they need is right in front of us. But you will find someone who appreciates that and is strong enough to understand and respect it.
She might have panicked because she felt things were moving too fast and then you have to factor in her child. Single mothers have a lot to consider when they get into a relationship. Yet, she could have thought that things were too good to be true. The only thing I can tell you is to give her, her space and time. Hopefully she will come around and see what she had. I hope the best for you.
Question on Feb 9th was that the first time you two slept with each other?
What Guys Said 3
Hey, I'm actually in the same exact position as you man. Me and my Girlfriend dated for about two months. She told me how all her past bf's were drug dealers/ called her ugly and cheated on her. And how I was the best person she's ever met etc...
I made sure not to be too clingy by not initiating texting and not being the one to ask to hang out. It was pretty mutual. Then all the sudden "I need space" I gave it to her and she texted me the next day wanting to hang out. Same thing we ended up fighting and breaking up over her saying she couldn't handle the clingyness too fast.
Basically I just told her to tell me it was over and she said we both need time. I made no contact for 4 days and she texted me said she missed me terribly etc... Right now things are shaky between us.
Lesson here is these women who are used to being in more casual/ bad relationships get excited at new ones where someone actually cares about them. But then freak out and ask for space and often the magic is gone after that. Just have to man up and make space before its too late, even if they don't want it at the time.
Best advice if after two weeks she hasn't texted she's gone. I was preparing to accept that my self, and still have to be ready for her to leave again because my relationship is far from repaired. If you do get her back start fresh, take it SLOW.
Hi, I'm in a very very similar situation but it was 2 months and her reason was "im not ready for a relationship, I need to be single". How did this work out for you?
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