Just found out my ex girlfriend cheated on me during the relationship
I posted a few weeks ago about a break up and I got a lot of advice, most of which I should've taken. But here's the new story: I dated this girl... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
I would bring it up to her in her face.
Dont cry, Don't get mad. Well yea get a little mad, but show her and tell her that this is complete bs. Be very dry with her. Dry and to the point.
Ask her why she allows her friends to dictate who she dates. At the end of the day, only your opinion matters on any situation. Not her "friends". Explain to her that's like her loser friends telling her where she can and cannot work. So make sure you state that.
I would rub this really hard in her face. Tell her the pain she has put you through. Ask her if she would like it if you did this to her. Tell her you want to see effort. And if she doesn't want you, to honestly grow balls and dipp.
Its time you start acting like a man bro. From this point forward in life. No more mister push over, unless she actually changes.
What Girls Said 3
Sorry but she wasn't cheating. She was just f***ing around while being single. She has every right as a single woman to do that.
FIrst, she wasn't "cheating" on you when you were broken up. This is where guys and girls differ. It's not cheating if you are on a break or actually broken up. Second, since she was always confident that you were going to stick around, she forgot to appriciate you. When it dawned on her that you were actually DONE, that's when she realized she was losing you. Forget the guy. It means nothing. But, you did wrong by making her your whole life. You have lost your identity. She's not bad, you are suffocating her. And you are unhappy becuase you have lost yourself. As for your "friends egging her on"... they aren't your friends. They are hers.
If you guys were broken up then she wasn't cheating. She was giving herself space from you... Obviously if she reacted in that way when you told her that you were moving out then she was taking advantage of the fact that she knew you would not give up on her no matter what she was doing. Girls need space sometimes as men do. She WAS NOT cheating. You can't cheat on someone you are not going out with. Yes, I know it hurts you but she wasn't cheating. She was trying to figure out if she wanted to move on.. And sometimes moving on is easiest with a rebound guy even tho it's not right in my eyes. She figured out that she wanted you and didn't want to move on. She LOVES you. So have a talk with her and be understanding about it. Don't push her away or accuse her of cheating. You have her back now and that's what you wanted so this time listen to our advice and DO NOT over react. It wasn't cheating.
What Guys Said 5
It does't sound like she was doing more than flirting with him a little, during a time when you were pretty much broken up, right? Even if you were 'trying to make it work', you were largely broken up during the time she was flirting with him.
I'd be more angry with these 'friends' who were encouraging her to be with this guy, even while telling you to 'keep trying.'
It sounds to me that she honestly DOES want to make it work with you..don't hold this against her as some major betrayal.
Just ditch out on her already. Man up and leave.
you overdid it also though. be more moderate next time..
same thing happened to me with my girlfriend of 6 years. just hit the bottle for a few weeks, bang as many peeps as you can, meet up with this girl for some random hate sex here and there as you deal with the pain, and then one day you will wake up and know that you have sown your seeds enough, and it will be all over.
but keep to yourself about what happened, except to new girls you want to see. that is very important.