I'm in a dilemma with two guys. I really like this one guy who I met in September. Things are progressing relatively slowly. We are both shy around each other and he has somewhat asked about hanging out, but I've either unintentionally rejected him or forgot how to agree and just stare at him.
Guy 2 I have known since kindergarten. I consider him a good friend. Things with his girl are going down the drain and he knows about guy 1. It is rumored that he wants to take me on a date and I've had the hunch he has developed a crush for me. We work together at my second job.
The issue is I still really like the first guy and am crushing on him and want to see where things go. I also refuse to go on dates with guys who have girlfriends and I dont want to be a rebound. I also dont want to reject him because I'd feel bad. And if I really like a guy I am one to work through those feelings before pursuing someone else. What should I do? :/
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When it comes to Guy 1, who you really like, I would suggest you place your attention on him for the moment.
He is single and interested in you. That's a great thing!
It may be challenging with you two both being shy. That means at times he will have to step out of his shell and you will have to do the same.
Perhaps you can call him and invite him to hang out, if that's something you're interested in doing and willing to do.
When it comes to Guy 2, I would suggest you continue to be friends with him, but don't pursue anything more than that, especially while he is still in a relationship with someone else.
Even if he does break up with the person he's with now, don't feel obligated to go out with him just because he is single.
Also, telling him that you aren't interested in dating him that soon after his break up is not a bad thing nor is it you rejecting him. It's you letting him clearly know what your dating standards are.
He will likely still be carrying around baggage from his past relationship.
If you do like him, allow him to get out of that relationship, have some time to adjust to being single again and make sure he is over his ex before even considering dating him.
I pray that something I've shared is helpful. Have a very blessed day!2
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