I would like a GF before I'm dead but it seems like I'm either limited to paying money for some dating site, or paying a hooker two things I don't want to do. I'm always being told just be yourself but guess what ITS GOTTEN ME NOWHERE. I'm starting to believe this be yourself thing is something people say to ugly or unattractive people because they know no one finds them attractive. I don't act like a jerk and I'm very polite to people I would act like a jerk if I knew how but I can't. I can talk to 100's of women and girls a week and still get nowhere. Please what are my options.
- I know the feeling guys are limited to datingVote A
- I'm a girl but can understand the frustrationVote B
- Some guys have all the luckVote C
- I think it all depends how good looking the guy is.Vote D
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I had this same problem. All my friends seemed to be savants when came to women. They always had girlfriends and/or with hooking-up with beautiful women. Despite being jerks while I was the nice guy watching on the sidelines. And it really got to me. It was making angry, depressed, and self-loathing. So I decided to do something about it.
First I decided to find out what things girls found attractive. Humor, Intelligence, Success, Good Looks, Empathy, etc. And then I made it my mission to develop each one of these qualities.
I was determined to become a better version of myself, a guy girls would happily fawn over. It was an obsession of mine. I started going to gym and working everyday. I even got myself a personal trainer. I revamped my entire wardrobe, and started wearing more stylish outfits. I got myself a better job. I started keeping up with current events and celebrity gossip so I would have things to talk about.
Once I started building the traits I went out starting interacting with people. Networking is a key part of making friends and ultimately finding a girlfriend. I used to be a very shy guy but I made myself more outgoing my going all the time and talking to every person I could. You will never meet new girls staying in at your house or by going to the same places. You need to try to new things and meet new people.
At first the transition was very difficult. I felt awkward and all interactions but as time went on interacting with people and flirting with girl became second nature. At this points it's more of a hobby of mine then anything.
Now, I have had several girlfriends, lost my virginity, and quite regularly have hook-up with women. I suppose the whole gist of what I'm trying to say if you really want something make it happen. Become the best possible version of yourself and unleash it upon the world.2