Why do guys lose interest once you sleep with them?

Why do they lose interest after they've slept with you?

And can you get that interest back even after you've slept with them?


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  • Girls and guys both want relationships at about the same rate - out of 100 single people of the same age, both guys and girls would probably, on average, be interested in a relationship with 3-6 of them. This varies by individual of course, but this is a reasonable average.

    But here's where things get VERY different: women only want to have sex with roughly the same percentage of guys they'd want to date, though these two pools of people aren't exactly the same (they'd bang a super-hot or super-popular guy without a relationship, and they don't always want to bang EVERY guy they want to date).

    But guys don't link sex and love the same way that girls do - they can separate the two in a way that most girls can't. And though they only want a relationship with 3-6% of the single girls they meet, they want sex from 50-60% of the girls they meet, and for those girls not on the relationship list, that sex is JUST SEX.

    Which would be fine if the guys were up-front about it being just sex (and sometimes they are), but some guys will definitely mislead, or outright lie, to get sex from a girl. To be fair, many girls can be told pretty directly that, to the guy, it's just sex, and they will be in denial, or just hope he "changes his mind", but that rarely happens.

    The simple solution to this is that girls (who don't want casual sex relationships) shouldn't have sex outside of relationships. While that might not work 100%, it's pretty close, because very, very few guys are willing to actually get into a relationship just to get sex - most will break it off and seek sex elsewhere once they understand that it's not going to happen without a relationship.

    Of course, this means the girl has to be willing to stand her ground, even if the guy leaves. She has to be okay with him leaving if he won't commit to a relationship, because it means he was never really interested anyway. Too many girls aren't willing to let the guy go, though, and end up being used.

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What Guys Said 7

  • It can be a number of reasons. Perhaps you slept with him too soon and that can be a turn off for some guys. Perhaps he was just interested in having sex with you and now that it's over he doesn't want to invest anymore time into the two of you. Perhaps something happened in his life after and he realized he didn't want to be seeing anyone at the moment.

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  • Please don't think all guys are like that. I know some guys just want another notch in the bedpost so to speak. Perhaps, make them wait a bit longer before you have sex with them. Don't rush into it.

    How to get them back after sex? ummmm perhaps more sex? Guys prefer sex to jerking off so it should be simple.

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  • some guys are jerks.. and this is coming from a guy.
    Some guys wants sex and the girl is just another in their list.they feign interest just to get into your pants. No emotional bonds at all.
    to keep such a guy u must be extremely good in bed, to blow their balls off. then maybe he will come for u for more sex, if thats what u want. If u want revenge u can seduce him more, and keep on teasing him.

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  • Becasue you picked the wrong guy

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  • if he lost interest in you after sex it's because he was never that into you to begin with.

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  • Beyond physical outlook sex is the primary issue that causes natural attraction. It is the bedrock so to say that cause and keeps a relationship.Its what causes the bond that we feel, that's why some guys feel they should go for fresh (new) wine when the get it before the right time instead of stucking up with what they have already tasted. Hence the importance of the commandment that it should not be attempted before marriage.

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  • Those types of guys are players out for that one thing is why.

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What Girls Said 10

  • If they lose interest after they've slept with you, I don't think there's any interest to bother trying to get back afterwards. I think in most cases in those circumstances, they lose 'interest' because their only interest in you was physical, so best to move on. Another idea why it's good to get to know a person and get at least a bit of an emotional bond with them before having sex if you already have developed some feelings.

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    • We we've been talking for a year and meeting and all of a sudden he's lost interest now I've slept with him.

    • Did he like you for any amount of time before doing the deed? Were you a virgin before him, and also how do you know he has completely lost interest?

  • they can't lose interest if they never had any interest for you.
    interest for that vagina maybe, but you? no. you can't force those people to like you unless your willing to spice things up more.

    if he genuinely liked you, he wouldn't lose interest. he would actually like you sooo much more. closer bond ya knoww.

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  • He didn't lose interest after sleeping with you. He FEIGNED interest BEFORE sleeping with you.

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    • this exactly. hard to believe girls can still be this naive in today's age?

    • And because of this naivety a lot of girls withhold sex thinking that way he "doesn't get what he wants straight away and stays with me".

      Just no. Some guys want relationships, some guys just want sex. It's unfair to assume ALL guys will leave once they get their dicks wet.

      I "gave it up" to my bf on the second date. Did he leave as soon as he was done? Feck no, we went another round. Two years down the line we're living together, planning our future, etc.

      One needs to be a good judge of character instead of permanently keeping your legs either open or shut.

  • because he got what he wanted, no you can't get it back

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  • Those guys aren't interested in the girl to begin with, their one and only objective was to sleep with them, a relationship was never part of their agenda.

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  • because you've already gave them what they want...

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  • Because you've slept with them..

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  • They weren't interested to begin with or the girl freaks out a d tries to push things forward too much or gets clingy.

    Most guys keep sleeping with her even if they aren't that into her, though.

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  • Because they don't really like you only your poosay. If they liked you for more than that they would stick around.

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