So the financial situation of my boyfriend isn't that great at the moment and as his gf I try to chip in as much as I can e.g. if I'm feeling hungry and in need of a quick snack and I'm with my boyfriend I always buy him something to eat as well. When we go on a date I pay at least half of the total costs. When I have time I sometimes cook for him, or when we see a clothing item that would look nice on him (or actually if I think looks nice on him hehe trust me I have a good taste, he always gets compliments and like the stuff I like for him as well) if its not too expensive I'll buy it for him.
So his financial situation is not that stable these past few months, but today he mentioned a 4day vacation (transportation and accomodation included) for about 100 per person, which isn't a bad deal at all in those 4 days maybe another 40euro on food so it will not be an expensive vacation. BUT my boyfriend financial situation is at a point that he even has to budget his groceries wisely & can't even eat out.
Yet he really wants to go and I keep telling him its a stupid idea and got angry at him and he told me that it looks like I don't want to go on a vacation with him
Am I being unreasonable? I just think that he should get his finance fixed before spending money on a vacation
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I think you are being reasonable, but I think you should also consider that he is trying to do something nice so you really shouldn't get angry at you.
perhaps discuss with him in a calm way if he thinks it's financially wise at the moment. express that you only mention because you care about him. make sure you let it be known that you like that he would want to go on a trip you are just worried about finances... if he seems especially reckless with money it may be something you need to consider but mostly this is just a matter of communicating with each other understanding each other's points of view and compromising0