We have been hanging out/talking/seeing each other for the last 3 1/2 months so I finally got up enough courage to ask him where he saw things going over the weekend. Everything has been great with us and our conversations have gotten deeper and we communicate more frequently.
I asked him where he saw this going and he said that he could see himself dating me. I then proceeded to say that I wasn't asking for a title right now and that I wanted to make sure we were on the same page with where this was headed.
We then discussed that neither one of us is seeing anyone else and that we are exclusive with each other. Then he went on to say he doesn't want to rush the title because he wants to make sure that I like him for who he is first and that I truly want to be with him. I assured him that he is the one I want. He went on to say his expectations for the relationship and I told him mine. At another point in the talk we discussed marriage and talking about us working in the future. He says that he has thought about dating me for a long time and that he just wanted to make sure that I really like him for who he is. That's why he isn't doing the honeymoon stage as he put and is just being who he normally would be.
After our talk with cuddled and kissed then ended up having really awesome sex. I feel like our talk helped bring us closer emotionally.
Why would he keep repeating that he wants to make sure that I like him for him? Was that a cop out or something or is he just being cautious? Is this normal for a guy to be that concerned?
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I'm going through the same thing right now. But we've only been seeing each other for a month now. When i met up with him last night, he included me to go to a little BBQ for his friend's going away party. So I met more of his friends, which was good. I mean all his friends know we are together. Then on the way home, he brought up that we've been seeing each other for a month now, and that he's happy that i came into his life especially since now he's back on his feet. But in the beginning he told me I might be the risk he's willing to take to be his girlfriend. So now its just me trying to be patient.
I guess in your situation he might be afraid to get hurt because maybe he has gotten hurt in the past. I would just keep showing him that you care for him and that your not going anywhere.0