I'm a Pakistani Muslim, but I've lived in America my whole life. My parents are extremely strict; like I can't even talk to boys. I always do It anyways. I'm in love with the thought of love; I told my mom that. My mom had an arranged marriage, and she told me that no guy is going to trip off his feet for you Sabrina (that's my name) there's no such thing as love. And she was completely serious. My parents will disown me if I don't get an arranged marriage; the same thing happened to my cousin. My parents are 100 percent against love marriages. What do I do about that?
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You'll have to make the hard choice of not being a part of the family anymore. But you have to ask is your happiness less important than their happiness. Because that's who you'd be sacrificing your happiness for- them. Ultimately this is YOUR life, and you only get one chance to live it. You can choose to live it for them or you can choose to live it for yourself, on your terms- but you can only choose one.
Personally, I think a family that is willing to do that to their daughter isn't a family worth having. Being alone can be scary, but not living your life how you want because of fear, well I can't think of anything more horrifying than that. To live in fear of making our own choices, both our mistakes and our triumphs, is the ultimate repression of the human spirit at its core.
I have found in my life that everything you hold dear, everything you own, everything you love, will eventually get taken from you sooner or later. It's inevitable. If not in life, in death, it all is taken from you. One day your family will be gone, and you will be left to live with the outcome of what you choose to do. Whatever love you find, you will either out live it or leave it behind in death. It is all temporary. Except for your word and your decisions. Nobody can take away your word, nobody can take away your free will. If you get into an arranged marriage, it will be your choice. You may choose it simply because you don't like the alternative, but it is a choice. Your word and the choices you make are the only things in this world that are yours to do with as you please, the only things that can't be taken away. In my opinion, that makes them to be more valuable than anything else in life.
So don't sully your word or give away your choice. When you give your word you keep it, and when you are face with a decision you make sure it is YOUR decision.1