Last time I checked, a pretty woman who handled her business (I.e. college educated, steady income, not on wellfare) was a GOOD thing? I have been single for awhile now. What is the deal with men who are...lets say, unattractive. ..way too old (>60+) or way too young (18-21) and who have no ambitions in life. .approaching me? I need some advice. I an smart and pretty and.successful. .so why are men who i have NO DESIRE IN approaching me? And how do i change it
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Generally speaking, I don't think there's a way to only interest people you're interested in. You're going to typically be attractive to most men to a larger or greater extent. Since less desirable men are perpetually single and have had to lower their standards, EVERY woman is going to attract a lot of duds relative to men she might actually want. So if you became a supermodel tomorrow (not saying you're unattractive at all, but assuming most of us are not in fat the hottest person in our city) you'd attract 20 times as many losers, but you'd also be pulling in more men you wanted as well.
So forget about the guys you're not interested in. It's not a bad sign. In fact the more of them that approach, the closer you are to pulling in the men you're looking for.
That said, as I recall you are skipping one of the main things that would make you attractive to some men (but not all). If you're not leveraging that aspect, you're really missing out on an opportunity to get the kind of guy you want.1