Is it common for women to date men with jobs of less pay and status than the ones they currently have?
I'm sort of intimidated by girls who have higher ranking jobs and make lots more than I do. When I'm chatting with a girl and find out about her career, I get psyched out and assume she won't be interested in dating a guy like me. And then my game falls apart, unless she lets me know otherwise.
If it makes any difference, I'm in a job that I'm overqualified for. I have the education for something bigger and better. But I'm still struggling to find work and get recognized.
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It depends on the woman.
If the woman wants a kid, chances are she's heavily gonna want to be a SAHM meaning, your income will need to be source. The problem is if she's used to living off of 50k and you've been making 40k. Chances are she's already used to living a 50k lifestyle meaning she might not be happy having a kid on a 40k income when she's already used to living off of 50k alone. It becomes a lifestyle issue.
The other issue I've seen girls mention is they always want a guy who is "better than them" and with the common misconception of success=income. Their opinion always gets mixed. A guy can have a profession he loves very much but only earn 30k off of it and even though he's able to make it happen and live on his own, people will still judge a 30k income as "unsuccessful" and give bullshit lectures about how he has to "be a better person" and all this garbage condescending BS (which ironically will come out of people's mouths who live at home with their mom still in their basement).
There are still plenty of women who have one simple requirement and that is living on your own. These women who are really strict on this most likely got fed up dating a person who lives with their parents. I can relate to the torture as well since I dated a girl who lived with her parents. It becomes a problem especially if the parents are strict. You can't spend time at their place because their parents are there and you don't want the partner living at your place as well. I honestly feel more guys need to be especially careful about this because there's many girls who try to sneak into a guy's place by slowly "leaving things behind." I know a guy going through it right now and he got an implied call out from someone pointing out that he's letter her stay for the sex.1