Why do some people hide from being gay? They get married and pretend to be straight?
Obviously married couples will have sex or couples in general usually do. If the guy or girl is pretending to be straight how does one have sex with someone they aren't sexual attracted to
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As a man who used to have sex with men, who struggles with same sex attraction, I can give you my opinion.
Wanting to have sex with someone of the opposite sex, or being attracted to them, is biological for 95% of the people on earth.
I can tell you from the soul wrenching abuse I suffered, my mind and spirituality is all twisted. Sex with men is all I have ever known. I know no other intimacy.
Yet, I find myself feeling ashamed, after the act, being top or bottom. I find myself empty. It's just how I feel, and I cannot keep living this way.
It is a dangerous lifestyle, as anal sex tends to spread diseases very easily, and in the gay scene, the desire to be more risky to try and fill the empty void in our lives grows, and grows, until we are letting guys we don't know do us bareback.
The excitement is so overwhelming, and it is rooted so deep inside of our souls, that trying to run away is often impossible. I have been struggling with it for almost thirty years.
Why do we hide? Because those of us with an intelligent brain know that it'll never be accepted, and even if it was, it would not take our guilt away.
Why do we get married? Because after many empty emotional experiences with other men, we begin to realize that only a woman can satisfy us. For all the great sex, nothing is like being inside of a woman, hearing her, smelling her, etc.
We are not "Pretending" to be straight, we are running from an overwhelmingly enticing but very empty lifestyle, and hoping things will work out. Unfortunately, it often ends in tragedy for our spouses, and us, as the draw to the same sex often just lurks until it find the right moment to tempt us again.
When I am tempted, I often sweat, sometimes even shake, in resisting the desires, and lie awake in bed all night, sometimes. It is an awful existence. I wish I was never exposed to it.3
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