How come nobody can teach me how to approach a woman?
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It differs... and something work with some types that won't work with others... and sometimes even if it's universally accepted, certain people have to learn "the hard way." Sometimes people just aren't ready to take advice.
1) I agree with certain "dating gurus" on some things, though I believe it's not so much the words you say but the general "look" or "idea."
Even if you have so mauch going for you, it could be some tiny thing that could make or break your chances.
Part of MY problem, for example, is that I am working on selling "the brand" to the wrong crowd. I'm not trying to, but I'm surrounded by "the wrong crowd" for me. Once in a while, I'd get a hit, but that's really down to numbers. It'd be like trying to sell tampons to guys. It's gonna be a tough sell; an uphill battle.
It's smarter to show "your brand" to people who are likely to buy that sort of thing. I don't see any ads for tax services when I watched Saturday morning cartoons. I'd see ads for cool light up shoes, or action figures, or other toys.
I know my market. But the market is small (tiny), and I have very little ACCESS to that market.
2) Figure out who you want to be. I was reading an article about the 4 archetypes of masculine male, and I agree with the general idea. It seems like the happier, more secure guys follow at least one of these archetypes (even perhaps without "knowing" them).
3) Figure out your market within that. I'm not saying that if you're more "sensitive" that you should try to be something you're not because it looks cool. Don't try to be James Bond, unless you're naturally like that. I AM saying that you use your gifts to "specialize" and make it work.
That's a small part of it. Nobody has all the answers; we've argued for years, and the advice changes based on society.
But... if you aren't ready... then forcing it still won't work.0