It's really hard being in a constantly changing relationship. Much of the year my bf and I spend time together. We pretty much live at my place. However, during spring break or summer, we tend to spend more time apart. He goes home and I stay at my place. He finally has time to spend with family and work on projects and fill his summer with hobbies he would normally not have time for. I live alone and I don't have family around nor do I have many friends. I moved to this city alone and it's been a tough ride. I found my bf 3 years ago here when I needed someone and it sort of evolved ever since into a friendship and partnership, I have never felt like I needed anyone else except in reality I need my own frikin life and friends!! It's so frustrating and hard when break time comes. I get it into my head that he is happy to be apart and doesn't really miss my company even though that is not true. He is just enjoying things he likes to do. So in this time I tend to get more crabby and needy, I complain if he doesn't text back within a reasonable number of hours or I even get inwardly jealous when he goes out with his extended family. I question why I wasn't invited too. But I don't need to be invited everywhere. I know that. So why do I still act like such a crazy person? I am getting more depressed by the day and recoiling into my shell to avoid being a needy gf and arguing with him.
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You're probably like this because of your own insecurities. I'm quite needy in the case that I need reassurance from my boyfriend because of my own insecurity. My counsellor spotted it and I discussed it with my boyfriend who understands that I need reassurance sometimes when I start feeling low so maybe you should discuss how you're feeling with your boyfriend so he understands. He'll know that you see there's a problem and you want to work with him to overcome it. When you start thinking about him and wanting to see him really bad, think about what you can do to improve yourself. Pass the time with painting, writing, seeing friends, having a hot bath - do whatever YOU like and has nothing to do with your boyfriend. You should be able to be happy without your partner and this is how you do it. I've been the same and I've found that just focusing on yourself and distracting yourself helps you grow and also keeps you distracted.
Your boyfriend loves you so don't make yourself believe silly things. If he didn't want/love/miss you, then he wouldn't be with you!0