I am 38 and my bf is 29. My bf asked me to be his gf more than 5 times after 2 months I met him. I kept refusing him because I thought I was too old for him... But finally I accepted him because I thought he was sincere and more than anything I liked him very much. We can talk forever and we laugh so much together. We have been dating for almost three month now.
He has been very sweet to me and he spends time with me every weekend. He stopped going out to bars and clubs since we started dating. When he wants to go to bars he wants to take me and he enjoys having me around. He buys me flowers, takes me out to dinner and we have fun together all the time but...he is obviously so young and he tells me that he doesn't know where this relationship is going yet. He tells me that I am not just a gf and he feels connection... He also says that it might take 2, 3 and 5 years to figure out what he wants with me. When he tells me that I feel that he is trying to tell me that he is hesitating to make bigger commitment with me.
I know I am thinking too much and we have been only dating for 3 months but I am not sure if I should keep dating him because of our age gap. I am 38 and I still want to get married and have kids. I like him a lot and I can see myself falling in love with him if I let my feelings control myseld but I am just too scared to get hurt. Am I dating too young guy? All of my friends say I am insane dating someone who is at the stage where he doesn't know what he wants in his life.. What do you think?
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he's 29 so he can that privilege of waiting 5 years or so to decide if he is ready for marriage. you're 38, and in all honesty the window is closing...right?
you're not necessarily dating too you but you need to realize and recognize that you're at different paths in life. he can afford to wait a few years to plan on marriage or children whereas you unfortunately don't have that luxury
I think if you are ok being on perhaps a 29 year-olds timetable than the relationship is fine. Otherwise you need to communicate your desires for a relationship (time lines, marriage, children, etc) and see what he thinks
just communicate with him, because it sounds like aside from being in different stages in life you have a really good relationship0