I've rarely been asked out by guys. The only ones who did ask were always super intimidated and would use my friends to communicate with me. I notice guys always checking me out and have been called beautiful by strangers...But I've never had a bf. it makes me feel bad. I've been told that I'm smart and sweet; I've already graduated from uni, but then, why can't I get a guy? Please help...
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because twying 2 hav convursayshun wit purdy ladeez iz so skary.
Lol, sorry it's late. I'm sure there's plenty of answers filed away if you use the search bar because this question has been asked and answered ad nauseum.
But...It's mostly because you're beautiful so guys won't approach. I know, I know. It's a paradox. You're so damn beautiful guys don't want to approach because:
a) Other people will be watching the guy's approach so there's the fear of being judged by the ever-harsh public
b) You're a total stranger. What the hell does one talk to a total stranger about? The weather? The local sports team. So cliche, right. You'll see right through it because you've heard it a million times before. Make her laugh? He's not all that funny, how does he do that at the drop of the hat when the pressure is piling on. Plus you're a stranger and we all know how women feel about stranger danger. The guy's probably thinking he's gonna get maced if he so much as utters the words "so let's exchange numbers."
c) He doesn't want to screw it up by saying the wrong thing, or stumbling over his words, or getting rejected, because you're beautiful so what would a woman like you want with a guy like him
d) As an aside to (c), you probably have a boyfriend or have multiple suitors to choose from so why would you want to waste your time on a guy like average joe (this one is a common fallacy among men)
e) You just don't look all the approachable. Maybe you have your headphones on, maybe your arms are crossed and have a bitchface going, maybe you're engrossed in a book, maybe you scurry off after you're done whatever it is that you were doing, maybe you look really busy and don't want to be bothered. I don't know. But I find a lot of women are so caught up in what they're doing that us guys wouldn't risk our left nut approaching them in case we were bothering them.
I think that covers the main bases. But if not...search bar. Alright, I'm off to bed.2