longest adult relationship. he has been to prison 3 times. defensive all the time. says he loves me but i feel like I'm walking on egg shells.been cheated on in past. this will be 2nd marriage.both have sons from past relationships
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Do you really want to spend the rest of your life, I mean every day in your own home, feeling like you have to walk on eggshells? If that isn't what you want then maybe a close, long -term friendship may be better for everybody? You will be no good to him even as a simple friend if you are not happy.
Has he really, honestly, openly dealt with every bad thing he's done? If yes then why is he so defensive all of the time? Is he receiving any sort of counselling?
What other positive influences does he have in his life? Sporting groups, friends, constructive employment? There are a number of things required to get somebody's life back together, and yes close relationships are a major part but you cannot be everything to him, it's simply not possible. He needs all of these other things in his life too.1