The other day I went on a date with this guy, he was lovely to me and I didn't get any red flags. But our personalities didn't really seem all that compatible. Normally I'm an all or nothing type of dater, if I don't feel a spark the first time I see someone I generally don't go back there again. However generally I only go on dates with people I'm already somewhat acquainted with, this guy came out if nowhere, I know nothing of his past or personality and neither does it seem does anyone else I speak to. At this stage I don't really see much of a future with him but it seems unfair to write him off when I don't really even know him. Should I accept a second date?
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It is kinda unfair. We humans are pretty complicated and can take a few encounters to realize whether you are into someone or not. There are lots of layers to peel back sometimes. I see where you are coming from. I understand the "spark at first sight" thing. I have come to realize that it isn't always that simple and easy. Not being compatible can be confused with just having differences between each other, or having things not in common. This is where you need to give someone a couple or even a few dates before you decide yes or no. You won't see the full picture in only a couple of dates. There may a lot of sides to him and his personality that you really adore, but it may take longer to find them. Having a lot in common can actually be somewhat boring. I don't I would want to be someone just like me, LOL. When you two have differences between you, that doesn't have to be something negative. With an open mind, it gives a chance to learn and discover new things in life, and a chance to broaden your horizons. Same goes with him. You never know, this guy could end up being your soul mate!0