I've been running into an interesting phenomenon recently. I have non-paramour girlfriends that I talk to who claim to love a romantic. I tell them all about what I would love to do for my girlfriend when I find her. I'll take her to the beach and have a candle light dinner on the widows walk of the house while the sun sets over the sound. We will go to Florence and bask in the Tuscan sun. I'd bring home flowers for her to let her know I was thinking of her and do my best to never let her forget how beautiful she is.
Now they always swoon over what I say and wish that they had boyfriends like that. Sometimes they have boyfriends, sometimes they don't. Sometimes they are interested in guys that wouldn't do that in a million years.
My question is, how important is romance?
How much does the prospect of romance sway you in choosing someone you want to date?
From what I have seen, for my friends, romance doesn't appear to matter until after the relationship has already begun. What seems to count in the beginning are a few words that make you seem like a great guy. Afterwards come the complaints that he never does anything for her. All he does is play video games or watch sports.
Why is behavior not part of something people seem to look at before deciding to date someone?
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I think romance becomes the key that holds the relationship together well long after the initial infatuation stage disappears. Romance to me, if beckoned, or given too soon, seems fake or phony. You keep that hidden deep down until you find that real special woman you can share it with, who you know will appreciate it. If you just go giving it around to every girl you date, it's going to not be seen as the rare gift that it is. Keep that for the moment you realize you love the woman and want to spend the rest of your life with her.0
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