This girl and I have been dating for at least seven months now and she still isn't comfortable around me. It bothers me on how she weasels her way out of talking about family and how she grew up as well. But the most "weird" thing to my friends that stand out is that she doesn't seem to be comfortable yet. She doesn't burp around me, is afraid to look messy, when she wants to stay the night she gets up really early to make herself presentable, we don't have those late night talks where we both look disgusting and the list goes on. My friend and his girlfriend have been going out for a year and a half now and the first three months they quickly settled in. They burped, farted, used the bathroom even if the other was in there, showered, and basically they saw each other at their worse. He even was willing to get stomach flu to take care of her and she didn't care if he saw her vomit. My girlfriend when she was sick with a cold she refused to see me for weeks. Will it just take sometime for her to adjust to me? For me it's been a really long time and I admit I am jealous of my friend because I want a girl that just doesn't care.
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I'm sorry to say, you and her are just not suited to each other. You have been together long enough to adjust and do all those things your friend and girlfriend have done. They obviously have a lot more chemistry then you and your girlfriend have at the moment. Do you guys touch much? Is there a reason why she would be so insecure? Is it that she doesn't want to lose you and thinks she must look her best so you will be interested? The fact you asked this question shows that maybe you have a communication problem with her. This is something you can talk to her about and tell her you don't care what she looks like, you will still love/like her the same.
Have you farted personally in a room with her then laughed about it? Have you showered with her? If you don't want to talk to her about it, I suggest doing these things anyway and other things to help build your bond and create 'trust' which is the missing element in your relationship right now. (trust that you will still love her at her worst)0