Well I've never been in a relationship nor dated anyone but the internet is filled with the ideology that the guy pays for the dates and girls just are stringent about spending their money. So does that also mean all girls are after money?
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Depends on the people, their beleifs, their finances est. in my opinion if you don't have money you shouldn't be going anywhere period.
I don't know where you're from, but in America the "man pays for dates" came about because women couldn't work-thus didn't have any money. If a man wanted her time, HE HAD to provide the transportation and finances to support the evening. The tradition still stayed even after women started to become collectivity employed, because even though they were able to work their wages were not enough to cover the costs of courtship. The tradition started out as a necessity in order for men to find/pick partners, not only did paying for dates allow the men to have private time with women away from their family, it also showed his generosity and ability to provide economically since women weren't legally/socially able to do so on their own.
Now-a-days the tradition still exists to some extent in American culture. It is thought of as a gentlemanly gesture, and some women still use it as a gauge to a mans economic stability/generosity. However the preference/requirement for a man to pay depends on the woman. Many women prefer to pay for THEIR OWN food (not splitting the bill), many women prefer to split the bill 50/50, many women prefer free dates with no financial exchange at all, many women prefer that the man pays. It all depends.
However many men prefer that a woman doesn't pay on the first date, but soon after frequent dates. Some men prefer to pay for THEIR OWN FOOD, some men prefer to split the bill 50/50, some men prefer to go on free dates with no financial exchange at all, some men prefer that the woman pays. IT all depends.
At the end of the day everyone has their own desires/requirements in a relationship. If you don't want to pay on the first date you don't have to, just respect someone Else's preference if they reject you over it. Simply find a woman with the same ideals/preferences that you do.3