My girlfriend and I (both of us 16) have been dating for 2 months now, our I guess you could say 2 month anniversary was 3 days ago. Today, she confessed to me that about a year before she met me, she sent nudes to two guys, 16 and 19 (separate times) that she met on instagram. They pressured her into it by sending nudes of themselves and she said she was naive and didn't want to seem rude, so she sent nudes back. She said that after her parents caught her having an online relationship with some pedophile 20 years old, they took her phone away and now she has to use an iPhone 3 with no special features or apps. She tells me she loves me and I appreciate that she told me. She said she doesn't want to send nudes to me right now because of the way those guys treated her after she sent the pictures. They immediately stopped talking to her and she's afraid of getting caught by her parents. Her relationship with me is a secret. Should I let the fact that she ever sent nudes slide, or what? I really love her and I'm pretty sure she loves me back because she seemed pretty desperate not to lose me when she confessed it and apparently I'm the only one who knows.
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First of all, you should feel honored that she trusts you enough to tell you something that she clearly doesn't feel good about. What's in the past is in the past, and that is pretty darn tame as far as secrets go.
I'm tempted to go on a rant about why you shouldn't send nudes in the first place ( a) The two of you could actually be charged with production/possession of child pornography; b) If someone nabs your phone, those pictures could end up online, which would be humiliating for her; c) It's just such a cold and impersonal way to express feelings), but I'll leave that for the parentheses since it's probably not going to help my answer.
If she doesn't feel comfortable sending nude pictures to you then you should respect that. You should never make a girl feel pressured into doing something sexual that she doesn't want to do. And you should absolutely never feel as though you are entitled to something sexual in a relationship. That's her choice, and a real man respects that.1