Ok, a few weeks ago I met a guy online through Craigslist. We instantly hit it off and found out that we had so much in common and were immediately comfortable with each other. We texted back and forth a lot, flirting a ton, and there was talk about sex too. So a few days after I met him in person and I was repulsed. I was not physically attracted to him at all, and he had some pretty bad habits that disgusted me (smoking, spitting on the sidewalk, etc.). We definitely do share a special bond and understanding of one another, but I told him that I just wanted to remain friends, which he did not want. He constantly texts me every 5 minutes. He's very insecure and constantly looking for validation. Sometimes we will have a good conversation in between his insecure texts. He keeps wanting to go out, but I have to make up excuses every time because I really am repulsed. He hasn't got the hint yet either.
I have repeatedly told him that I'm not looking for a relationship but I enjoy talking to him. He keeps trying to push a relationship even though he said that he wasn't looking for one either... which is bullsh*t because he totally talks and acts like I'm his girlfriend and gets offended if I don't spend time with him. What can I say or do to politely end this now? I already told him no, but he isn't getting it. Should I just ignore his texts and calls? Since he's so obsessive I'm afraid that might lead to something bad. Please help.
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My suggestion since your state of safety is now in question, would be to play the bitch card, tell him you're not interested and you've given him every opportunity to be friends with you and you're done.
Then change the cell phone number, a bit of a pain in the ass, but, worth it. I doubt ignoring his calls and such is going to do much of anything other than make him go to more extreme measures.
If he still comes at you...
Restraining orders are always a nice way of saying, "Please leave me the f*** alone."