So, my boyfriend and I disagree... how would you feel if your bf/gf had a photo album on their phone devoted to ex's/old friends/past hookups and it was just photos of those people alone? How about naked photos people had sent them in the past? And how about if they had screenshots from snapchats of the opposite ex in a bathing suit captioned "ass and titties?" Thanks, just need to know if I am being insecure/irrational or if I am not alone in being both bothered and concerned about trusting him. I can see where some people like to keep photos they took of someone or whatever to remind them that that stuff happened but at the same time I think "memories" are in your head and once you're in a committed relationship the photo evidence of the past is irrelevant. I definitely can't side with him on nudes or screenshots of other girls though. Where do you stand?
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If my girlfriend had an album of past boyfriends and the pictures were slightly provocative (ex. Shirtless), then I would assume she still had feelings for that ex-boyfriend and I would know she hasn't fallen for me yet. I'd guard my heart. If my girlfriend had pictures of naked past boyfriends then I would break up with her because I would know where I stand with her.
You aren't being insecure for having a problem with your boyfriend having these pictured. You are being insecure for not demanding more respect and establishing boundaries in your relationship. Is he the one, or isn't he?
Respect yourself and you will find a guy to do the same. If this one won't, then release him to all his nakef girlfriends2