I've been hurt in the past badly and I have got to the point where I'm bitter and insecure. And now when a guy comes along, I analyse him and I am so afraid of getting hurt again that I look for signs to see if he's just after one thing. But now I don't know if the guy seems genuine, how am I meant to know if he actually is? How do I know that he's just telling me what I want to hear?
I mean there is this one guy I've been on a few dates with and he actually does seem genuine but he's never kissed me either. Yet may compliment my looks here and there. But there's times where I question him regardless because I feel like every guy is going to hurt me. Then there is this other guy who I met at a club, who is younger than me but we have already kissed a few times and he pretty much felt me up after the second date, in the car. And I had a disagreement with him because I felt things were moving a bit too fast and he said something that bothered me. So I went to leave and he said "so it's over, you're not going to see me anymore?" And I said "I don't know" and I left. Then he texted me after saying "Please don't be upset with me, I'm sorry for what I said, I really like u. And I was considering not seeing him again but he said "Let me show u I'm not just after one thing and that it's hard for me to find someone that suits me".. He also said "Next time we don't even have to kiss or anything, I just like being around you."How am I meant to know who the genuine guy is here, what if both are?
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I think it has to do with the fact that you're kissing and go sexual the second time you meet someone. I'd get to know them first, for like, an extended period of time, for example 4 months or something. I always found it odd how people expect to know the inner workings of another person the third time they see them.1