I always have this kind of problem with all the guys I met. No matter how we met or how the date went on, all the guys I went on a date with always ask me to go to their place upon the second time of meeting up. Either it's a 'movies' or 'swimming' invitation. I never act or hinted that I want to hook up with them yet they always do this. I usually suggest that we go out and do something else instead, but they usually insist to just go to their places. If I still refuse they just fade away and I never hear from them again. If I accept we'd end up hooking up instead of dating.
How do I play this right? Do guys always do this? Can their intention be literally 'watching movies' or 'swimming'?
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Most of the guys yes. Why? Because that's what guys date for. There are hardly 5% of men who desire 'true love' or disney like love stories. Hardly 5% of men want someone to give a shoulder to cry on or to tell them how they look in a new shirt. Respect the differences between males and females. Men are perfectly comfortable living alone or with buddies. But the thing that is lacking is sex- that's why they date.
Now the point to realize here is that men who want sex are not BAD. men who want sex and leave you after they get it are BAD. a good guy is the one who will make you coffee the next day and cuddle till you suffocate with the smell of his sweat ( trying to make a joke, pardon me if it sounds lame).
What happens when you reject their advances? Exactly what happens when water hits an obstacle. It doesn't wait for the stone to go away, it finds another slope and goes around the stone... NEVER TO BE SEEN AGAIN (sounds similar?) IF a man is not getting sex from a girl, he will stop trying and go for another who gives him. Simple.
So what happens when you keep putting up obstacles? you miss on many good men as always..
I read somewhere... 'A princess has to kiss many frogs before she finds the prince'0