Okay, here's the deal: About a year ago, one of my best friends (girl) said that she had a friend who had still been in matric who needed a date for her matric dance. She asked me if I would mind going with her. I love dancing so I said yes.
We started chatting and met a few times before the time, and I can safely say she really liked me, she was always texting me and being all sort of flirty. My only problem was that she was quite a bit fat; I know what you're gonna say, you shouldn't judge by appearances and that's what I did, although I did enjoy hanging out with her and I even kissed her once. after the dance, I told her that I couldn't be in a relationship. She didn't ask why but that was about the end and we didn't speak again, and that was about eight months ago. I think her parents liked me, they were really cool people.
I've been single for almost four years and that's killing me, frankly. I still have her on Facebook and every now and then I check out her profile and our old messages etc. Tonight I messaged her and asked if she wanted to go on a date. She replied that she was speechless. I haven't replied yet.
Would she like come back to me, am I even right in trying this, or am I just shallow and a disgrace to men who just wants a girlfriend?
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I dont think what you did was wrong unless you led her on while knowing you weren't planning on pursuing much more. If I were in her shoes, I would want you to be honest with me (while keeping my feelings in mind) and apologize for waiting so long to pursue something. Say something like "Listen, I know its been a while and you deserve more of an explanation, but I've been thinking a lot and I really want to take you out" I wouldn't mention anything about why you waited 8 months unless she directly asks you. Good luck :)0