I'm nice and very polite by my nature. I never wanna hurt people's feelings. I rather say something nice than the truth, you know what I mean. But when it comes to guys that's leading me to situations I hate and can't really hate. Like tonight, there was a guy who knew my ex bf (I'm still in love with him and don't wanna have anything with anyone). We talked for a while, but then I followed my friends to another bar.
There was a guy I once talked to, and he came to me and was flirting etc. I wasn't interested so I said I'm gonna buy a drink. He came after me and paid for my drink though I said I wanna pay myself. I talked to him for a few minutes, and then I said I'm gonna back to my friends. He said "you owe me at least i kiss, c'mon i bought you a drink"... He just kissed me and I didn't resist. I'm just too polite.
I run to my friends as soon as I could, but he came after me again. We went outside and I convinced my girl friend to pretend there was something bad going on with her, that I needed to stay with her - that he would leave us alone. She did her best (and everyone else was laughing bc they got what was going on, she with fake tears and everything). However, the guy didn't get and he was just insisting me to go for a walk with him (we all know what that means). I said I need to stay with my friend...
and i changed a bar, had one dancing with my friends for an hour, before i went home. and saw him on my way home. Then he forced me to kiss him and I just run home. I don't know why these things happen to me everytime! How could I be able to say "no" nicely?
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I'm like you I have a real hard time saying no but I was in a situation where I could help but say no in a firm tone, you know like not nicely. It killed me cause I felt really bad for talking to him and that manner but I had to cause he was going to take advantage of me not being able to say no!1