In college I used to hang out and wanted to date this guy. He told me clear as day that he didn't want a relationship at that point in his life. Eventually I wanted the relationship and he just wanted the sex. He ended it saying he couldn't use me like that, that it wasn't fair to me.
Fast forward 5 years later..
I just got out of a 4 year relationship back in September and this guy started coming around again. He made it clear that he wants to date me. He has taken me out on dates to movies, dinner, to meet his family and spends time when he can with me.
He keeps telling me that he does want me to be his girlfriend but he needs to talk to his friend to inform him that we are dating first (I used to date his close friend) He says out of respect for his buddy he wants to let him know that we are dating first hand so he doesn't hear it from someone else. Once he gets that out of the way he will make it known and official that we are together to everyone who doesn't already know. (He also said that no matter what his buddy says it won't change him wanting to be official with me.)
We have been dating exclusively for the last 4 months but he has been nervous about having this talk with his buddy. I haven't pushed the subject but he is supposed to do it soon now. All of his close friends keep joking like why aren't you two dating already etc.
I'm just worried because I know he is frequently snapchatting this other girl he had a history with. I asked him about it and he laughed saying it was nothing and couldn't believe I was worried. He says that I'm the one he wants and that if he didn't he wouldn't be taking me on dates etc.
Why would he be talking to other girls? Is it because I'm not exciting enough? He tells me that if he ever felt that it wasn't going to work with us that he would tell me right away. He would never lead anyone on. Therefore, him saying he wants a relationship with me would be majorly leading me on.
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You are freaking out for no reason. I can assure you if he's risking one of his buddies to date you he really likes you. I personally think you have nothing to worry about. He seems like he has been pretty honest with you up to this point so you should have no worries. One thing to add though, unless he gives you a reason to not trust him, if you freak out every time he chats with a woman you could risk pushing him away. My ex was like that and it drove me nuts because I never once cheated on her or even contemplated it. So my advice if you want to keep him, is give him trust unless he gives you a reason not to, which up to this point I don't think he has with the info you provided.2