I understand that I'm too passive and that I lack confidence in myself, but I am getting better. I'm afraid of losing her as a friend so I tip-toe around her.. But the truth is that we have a lot of fun together. We both definitely have feelings for eachother...
I basically confessed to her a month ago, but forgot to actually ask her on a date. Things were awkward for a week but since then when we hang out she's been more flirty with me. She's even told me that she wants me to "let her come to me."
She blushes when she looks at me and while she flirts heavily with our friend when we're hanging out.. I know its because he's a huge flirt and she just gets caught up in it. But then so do I. Lol.
One of her friends said that her and him have a brother/sister vibe whereas when she's with me its a boyfriend/girlfriend vibe. While I'm not comparing myself to my friend who's a real life barney stinson, I would like to mention that between the two of us I'm the only one to have met her mother, her other friends and has been invited into her home by her.
Just finding the right moment to do it is hard. We just hung out at the bar last night sending off our friend (the player), who's going to Korea for a month. Prior to that I was at her place drinking and talking, watching a movie.
I don't want to appear too clingy or anything remotely needy. She's going on a 2 week trip. Maybe I should ask her out a couple days before her trip and have her give me an answer when she gets back... Or do it when she gets back... Though I thought about asking her while we're camping a couple weeks after she gets back from her trip.
Maybe I should ask her out tonight and make concrete plans to go out for dinner either 2 days before or the day before she leaves for 2 weeks.(on 07/12/14 its currently 06/25/14). Or should I make the date sooner.
I have a couple first dates in mind actually. Ones just at a local restaurant. Another's at a farmers market that ends with dinner.
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"Let her come to me" is like saying "don't call me I'll call you" but what the hell. Just ask her out. You can't lose by being honest, but what if, wondering, obsessing, will kill you. Worst case scenario is she rejects you but its a lot easier to move on from rejection than "I wish I had said something when I had the chance" because she might meet somebody else and by then its too late.0
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