hey so i have this terrible mind sabotage thing where as soon as i realize a guy i like likes me back and we even get close to having a relationship, i start freaking out and thinking he's either gonna change his mind, or i will change my mind and then a bunch of awkward crap will happen and ill have to break it off, or that he will turn out to be a total creeper. Please dont tell me how not all guys are like this and to give each one a chance or ill never know. its not the boys that have a problem (most of the time) its me. i think as soon as i get into a relationship or admit my feelings, everything will change and be different, like hell act awkward or i will or... i dont know. i dont know what relationships, good relatiomships are supposed to look like... please help:(
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yea your mind fucking yourself. Its the What if game lol... which can and will go on forever. I mean it sounds like your not comfortable with yourself. You just don't want to lose special moments with guys. Or when a special moment does happen you'll do something the next day to ruin it and you'll never get the feeling back.
That way of thinking just sucks.
anyone will tell you that your way of thinking needs to change. Relationships start with trust and an understanding of each other. gotta know the person your with. Its the friends you call at 4 am that matter yah know. And then love, when you care about someone's happiness more than your own. Don't think of everything all at once though. Just think of today and so on and so forth. Because your just gonna keep playing the same game... and you don't want that.
its nerve racking. But if you fall in love right away... it has a chance of you getting clingy... especially if the dude your with hasn't been with you that long. You know your going to see the guy again. If you had a good night, its not like if he was gone for 2 days or so thats it. Because i know you'd probably be off the walls with different answers and reasons and that isn't healthy.
by the way my bro has he same problem lol0