Have any of you been in the situation where a friend of yours got in a relationship or started dating someone you really liked? What was it like for you?
This happened to me on two occasions. Yes, I had asked the girl out and she said no thanks. Ok. Within a week or so, they both got into a relationship with friends of mine (one is my best friend). I REALLY liked both women, and it was very painful just to have them reject me, but the pain doubled down when they started seeing my friends. As with all pain, it eventually went away. I didn't end, or even consider ending, either of those friendships (they are still my friends of more than 25 years). I was friendly to both girls, but I'd be lying if I said that both occasions weren't difficult times in my life. By the way, both friends knew I liked the girls a lot. At times, I had fun hanging out with them, but other times I had to fight back tears. I've always found the best policy when being rejected is to politely walk away. However, in both cases I couldn't do that if I wished to continue seeing my friends. Ultimately I believe it took much longer for me to get over them than it would have otherwise. What I learned was that the odd man out in a love triangle has no fun, but to have ended friendships would have been far worse. Then, not only would I have been rejected, but I'd have been out two friends.
I ask this because I've recently encountered two questions on GAG about friends dating crushes. I was a bit surprised to find out that some were considering ending their friendships and some were advising them to end their friendships.
Any rate, what's your opinions and stories?
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I have a story! :) Thing is. The guy I like started dating my closest friend. It hurt so bad. And the thing is? I got them together because I wanted to make them happy... It was a gut wrenching experience seeing them in classes and have the guy I like (my best friend) go on about how much he loved her... now? They broke up. But he isn't over her and it still hurts so bad to know I can't compete. But. Time moves on and we eventually find someone special. It may not be now or even tomorrow but it will happen soon and that something to look forward to.
Hope I helped? <30