So my love interest and I have been talking a lot after getting very close while he was still single, and still now that he has started to get back together with his ex (he initiated the breakup, she is willing to get back with him so I'm not "plan B" or anything). We see each other often (not dates, parties and school/athletics) and have a great time together, talking about random things and playing games, etc. We've discussed our situation in that he's really into me, but he still can't figure out if he's still in love with his ex. In the meantime, we've been cuddling, touching, and kissing (nothing huge) and he continually expresses how much he likes me and how he just doesn't know what to do. I don't want to continue like this much longer because it's obviously a sticky situation, but I don't know how to get an answer from him. While I enjoy having the relationship we currently have, I'm not going to keep getting physical with him if he can't make a decision. In short, I plan on telling him exactly that (I'm not going to keep fooling around with you if you can't get your shit together) and hoping for the best, but I want to try to understand his position a bit:
What is it even like--choosing between an ex and a new gf/bf?
Should I confront him about this?
How can I go about smoothly making a decision?
I know he cares for me, so I'm not just a tool to him. We're also stuck together for the next 2 years, so it's not like he'd play me when he has to see me every day.
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I've been in a situation where I am hung up on an ex but something is developing with a new girl. It was torture for me and would eat me up inside as I didn't feel like I was allowed to move on or be happy with someone else. I had to learn to overcome years of history and emotions and do what was right for me and made me happy for a change.
It does take someone putting their foot down to push the decision and hopefully you've shown him enough of how you understand him and can offer.0