I'm 23 years old and I've never had a girlfriend or even a girl interested or even think I'm attractive. What can I do to become attractive to women? I am thinking of getting plastic surgery in order to fix my facial flaws. People say that I'm very friendly and cool, though I am really shy when it comes to women
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As long as you are in decent physical shape, your appearance isn't likely to be the issue.
95% of the time, if a guy can't get girls, it's because he lacks CONFIDENCE. That's the single most attractive thing to girls - it's why so many girls go after "bad boys", even if they know the guy isn't good for them: they are SO attracted to his confidence that their emotions completely overwhelm their logic.
Think about every guy you've ever known who was good with girls. Are the always the best-looking? No. Always the richest? No. Always the most talented? No. All of those things help, sure, but all of those guys have CONFIDENCE.
What does that mean? It means those guys don't care what anyone thinks about them (well, they probably care what a small handful of people think, but everyone else can suck it as far as they're concerned). They also have ZERO fear of rejection, because they know that if one girl turns them down, they just move on to the next, and that to some degree, it's just a numbers game. Because they are confident, they flirt with, hit on, and ask out girls CONSTANTLY, and they've learned to let rejection roll right off of their backs and not to take it personally or make a big deal about it.
If you've ever watched the show How I Met Your Mother, Barney Stinson is exactly this kind of guy, and he is amazingly successful with women as a result.
Since you are just starting out, you begin by asking out EVERY girl who is attractive to you. Don't wait around psyching yourself out, just DO IT. EXPECT to be rejected, and learn not to care if you are. Once you can have that attitude, you'll be (and seem) FAR more confident, and ironically, girls will start responding to you more positively. Plus, like baseball, every trip to the plate brings valuable experience, and soon you'll be knocking them out of the park.
Eventually, you'll be able to focus more on a particular girl and be successful, but DON'T try that at first - it's too restricting.0