I've been dating this guy for a few months. It's like he wants his cake and he wants to eat it too. He wants me to be his girlfriend but not fully commit to it. Like deleting his dating profiles and stuff. He told me his was in love with me this weekend and I don't believe him because why would he need to have a dating profile and stuff? I broke up with him and I meant it. But I love him too so I'm wondering if this will make him come to his senses.
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1. You're being manipulative. By breaking up with him you are ending the relationship and your hoping this will make him commit. On logical grounds this doesn't make since. On emotional grounds it may. So in a way your hoping that by breaking things off with him you'll effect his emotions and make him come back. Or in other words your manipulating him.
2. If you have to manipulate him neither you nor the relationship is worth it. A manipulative person only manipulates because they do not believe other people will accept them on their own so they turn towards manipulative means. Or in other words you sound insecure. You may get the outcome you want but not by the means you want. By manipulating him instead of allowing him to make his own choices your forcing him into a relationship through extrinsic motivation instead of allowing him to intrinsically motivate himself into marrying you. Years down the road that extrinsic motivation will backfire as it always does and make him realise he didn't marry you because he wanted to he married you because he was scared.
3. You're still not in control. By manipulating him you think that you will get the outcome you won't but it may very well go in the opposite direction leaving you alone and forced into trying to find another relationship
In short. Don't do it you don't need too0