I've not long broken up with my ex and don't intend on dating again anytime soon but, as I'm so shy and find it hard talking to guys, I was wondering whether online dating was any good.
I don't know if anybody here has tried it but are there a good selection of people there, and have you ever had any luck? I'm not expecting miracles but I'm hoping it would be a good place to try to find somebody whenever I feel like trying again. I'm not really picky or anything like that, I'd just be hoping to meet some nice guys with the same interests and see how things go :)
Thanks for your help! :)
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Because you're attractive your inbox is going to be crammed full with messages that are just "hi" and "wanna ****?" If you were merely average it would be crammed full of mostly the former. You'll be forced to sift through them, and will likely do so first by profile photo (as everyone does), which will inevitably lead you to contact the same guys every other girl in your area is contacting.
Online dating has its place, especially as you get older and the dating pool has shrunk to the point that it's unlikely you will run into potential partners in your day-to-day life. It's a good way to target people with specific values or interests that you have a higher chance of getting along with, but it's still requires a lot of effort for a very uncertain reward. For every success story there are plenty of failures, and even some outright disasters. My uncle was badly used by a woman he met through a dating site. It's his own fault IMO, but it's still a consequence of trying to start a relationship with people we don't truly know yet.
In general, especially for somebody who is still a young adult, it should never be considered a substitute for going out and meeting people because you happen to be shy.1