I've been in a relationship for about a year now and I love her a lot. I've had a problem though: I was hung up on what my ex had done to me and that instilled some serious trust issues in me. I want to make myself happy again so that I may move on with my life, and give this great girl a fair shot. There's a catch. When I spoke to her, I asked, what if we took a break so I can fix all of these issues so that we can have a better relationship? Her answer was "I'dive on and never date you again." So now that makes me feel even more like shit and I'm clouded by that over my head. How do I respond to that? What is she doing, girls? Is she bluffing so that I don't even try it, is she insecure? What is it?
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Every time you're going through serious issues in your life or your relationship, are you going to want to take a break?
She has the right to move on. Asking her to wait around for you until you feel like coming back isn't fair to her. It's pretty selfish.
But if you're not ready to be in a serious relationship then you should probably leave. One day in the future she may give you another chance but she already let you know, she'll move on. You never know what the future holds though.
Learning to lean on your girlfriend and trusting her to be there for you, just might be the remedy you need to heal your old wounds. Think about it. Maybe the truth is, you're just afraid and running away from something good, true, real. It may be a huge mistake to leave her.
How will you learn to trust again on your own? Why do you think you can resolve these issues by leaving her "temporarily"?
The best way to get over your past is to accept that it happened and learn to trust again. Your gf sounds like she's a keeper. I wish you luck.0
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