Is it ever okay to put school/work before your significant other?
My girlfriend and I decided to take a brief break from our relationship to figure out if this is what we really wanted. One of the main reasons we were arguing so much is because she feels that I don't spend enough time with her even though I spend nearly every second of my free time with her. I've been doing everything I can to show her that I'm committed to our relationship, and she said that the only thing holding her back from ending the break is my busy schedule. I'm currently in university and have a part time job which obviously takes up a lot of time. She wants me to quit my job since I come from a pretty well off family and don't "need" it. However, I'm not working just to earn money but rather because I genuinely enjoy my job and it makes me feel independent. I've already sacrificed a lot to be with her (I use to be in a band but quit because she didn't like the constant traveling). We've been together for almost two years and I would hate to let that all go down the drain, but should I really have to quit my job?
- YesVote A
- NoVote B
- Depends: please explainVote C
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There is no right or wrong to it. It only matters what works for you guys. It sounds like you are putting in some pretty long hours, which is not acceptable to a lot of women. This is just something that is part of compatibility, but there is no right or wrong. Whether jobs and careers are more important than a relationship is strictly a matter of priorities.
But there is nothing abnormal about the way she feels. It's pretty common. I've worked at a lot of engineering start up companies where people work pretty long hours. It definitely cause a lot of tension in relationships.0