I've been told this before and I'm wondering if it's true. I've been told that the reason guys talk to me, but will never take things further is because I'm a good woman that hasn't made the same "wild mistakes" as most people my age, and I'm making something of myself with one college degree under my belt and another on the way in a year, thus guys feel like I would judge them for their faults/mistakes and would leave them for a better, more educated man? Is this truthful at all? It seems women who don't have the "good girl" stereotype and aren't in college have a better chance at men than I do.
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If a guy is worried his girl is going to leave him the guy he's imagining her leaving him for is more materially successful, attractive, or sexually proficient... reasons any girl no matter how pathetic she was might leave her guy. It has little or nothing to do with her believing she deserves a better man because she's a better girl.
He thinks he won't be able to get you to give it up, and therefore you're a waste of his time when there are so many other woman who will.
He feels his manhood is challenged by the idea of a woman being an equal breadwinner or decision-maker. Having dated several highly accomplished women (two PhDs and an MD) I'd say they also have a bad tendency to expect their men put them first in their life, while not placing their men first in theirs. Unless you're happy being a sub (in relationship terms) that's not necessarily a bad reason to steer clear.
He wants to be with somebody who makes him feel good about himself, and your attitude does just the opposite. I'm one of the world's worst offenders when it comes to giving off "you're not good enough for me" vibes, so I don't say that to judge. Somebody once told me I make people feel bad because they feel I'm constantly weighing them against my unreasonable personal standards. In such a case it would not be shocking for people to eliminate themselves as potential mates. This in my opinion has nothing to do with being left for somebody "better," but rather the fact that nobody wants to be with someone who makes them feel bad about themselves.0