This girl I was talking to said she likes another guy that she is also talking to, she said she wanted to be friends she likes me and loves hanging out with me because I understand her and click. I just stopped contacting her because I have feelings for her and I know she's not going to commit. Am I being immature? Should I just man up? Or am I ok to put distance
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First of all, distancing yourself is absolutely fine. I'm glad that you can see that she is probably not going to commit. If you are speculating it, it's probably right. You are trying to avoid the treacherous "friend zone" which is smart, because often what that zone really is, is a way for a woman to keep someone she sort of likes without having to commit to him fully. You don't deserve this and it is good that you are avoiding it.
However, stopping contact completely is a little sharp. She, without doubt, is going to notice you doing something that severe. She might react in a variety of ways. Here are some ways that she might react that seem to be most prominent:
1. She might become angry or frustrated with you.
2. She might try to seek you out. (Suddenly pays more attention to you, maybe even asks why you have "suddenly disappeared," etc.)
3. Does nothing about it.
In all cases, you want to be respectful to her despite the fact that she is not being respectful to you, because despite the unfairness, being disrespectful is not going to help. It is only going to make things harder for everyone in the end.2