When my boyfriend and I were broken up for a month, I slept with someone else. I told him the truth about it when we got back together after about 2.5 months break up, and we were fine for a few months but suddenly he left, and has become unemotional and hateful to me. I know he loves me and I hurt him bad, so how can I help him overcome this because I know it was a mistake I should have never made.
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If you slept with someone else while you two were separated, I'm not sure what it is he feels he needs to be upset about. You weren't together. He'll have to learn to accept that it happened, he doesn't have to like it, but since you were separated, he has no reason to hold a grudge. Unless he's convinced you and this other man were fooling around while he was still with you, then I suppose he has a gripe. Not sure if this applies to your situation, but at least it would make sense.
You and him need to have a long, long talk. You need to listen to him explain how and why it hurts him so much yet, and you need him to listen to you if this whole thing truly happened during your separation time. You both need to figure out if you even want to pursue this relationship further, or just part ways. If he don't want to talk about it, then it's over.
Point being, both of you need to understand the past is the past, and to move forward together, both of you need to let the past go. He needs to accept what's done is done. You need to accept it as well. And you'll have to really show him that he is that important to you. Words will help, but actions speak louder than words.1