I've things happen to me in prior relationships that scarred me pretty badly, but I'd like to think that I've made good efforts to put those things behind me. I'm usually a pretty quiet and serious guy as well, but I've also tried and in many ways succeeded in being more fun and easy-going on dates or just meeting women. For some reason though, I still can't seem to get a woman to connect with me, even if I feel that there is something there. It's like they either try to force it or pretend it's there.
I never thought I'd be one to ask this, but is there something I'm doing wrong here? I feel like there is. Why do I have such trouble getting someone to connect with me?
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I have the same problem with men... I rarely feel connected to my dates.
I've also had a rough history. I'm starting to think that being emotionally stunted is my problem. I feel emotions, but I'm out of touch with them. My unconscious manner is to stay in control and secure, you know?
I listened to this audiobook about how showing vulnerability (not begging for a crutch, but being open and real) actually makes people attractive to others. I always thought flawlessness was the answer, but I'm starting to think otherwise.
Maybe try opening up a tiny bit at a time...0